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Some military families find bin Laden's death bittersweet

CHARLOTTE -- Osama bin Laden's death at the hands of a U.S. Navy SEALs team was met with praise and pride from military members and their families, but their relief was tempered by the worry that it will send the wrong message that the war on terrorism is finished and the troops can come home.

"We know the war on terror is not over, and we need to take a very sober look at all this and understand what we're fighting," said Brett Farley, whose father, Naval reservist Steven Farley, 57, died in June 2008 when a bomb tore through a municipal building where he was working in Sadr City, Iraq. "(Al-Qaida) is not going to sit quietly."

That's what concerns Rachel Porto, whose husband, Marine Cpl. Jonathan Porto, 26, died March 14, 2010, in Afghanistan.

"Now that he's gone, people will say, 'bring the troops home.' But it's not the end of terrorism and it's not the end of al-Qaida. But it's a start, and it's a statement that our country's not to be messed with," she said.

Bin Laden was killed early Monday when Navy SEALs stormed his compound in Pakistan, capping a decade-long search for the alleged mastermind of the Sept. 11, 2001, terrorist attacks and others that killed Americans, including military members. It seemed that his death was the focal point of every conversation at military bases and in the homes of families with sons, daughters and spouses on active duty.

For families who lost loved ones in Iraq or Afghanistan, it was more of a bittersweet day. While they wanted to celebrate -- and most did -- it was tempered by the reality that their loved ones were killed in action.

"To be honest, I was kind of excited," Porto said when she heard bin Laden was dead. "I asked my mom, 'Is it wrong to be excited?' I feel bad to celebrate the death of anyone, of any human being. But this is a human who caused pain for so many people. And I've taken it personally because my husband died in the war. So it's hard not to celebrate."

Ruth Stonesifer, whose 28-year-old son, Kristofor Stonesifer, was an Army Ranger who was among the first U.S. troops killed after 9/11, said another son emailed her to say it was a good day, and she knew what he meant.

"I wasn't jumping up and down but I was relieved for the country that there was an end to this one chapter," said Stonesifer, 63, of Kintnersville, Pa. "I never really felt Osama bin Laden killed my son. I felt as though he did some grievous damage to America, but I wasn't out in the streets celebrating. It's kind of bittersweet."

Bin Laden's death also provided a morale boost for Iraq and Afghanistan war veterans, who have struggled with issues such as high unemployment and a feeling that too few Americans understand their sacrifice.

"Everyone's upbeat. Everyone's happy. Everyone feels a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment and closure that we didn't feel yesterday at this time ... There was just this looming feeling of defeat, although most people wouldn't come out and say it, it was there," said Cormick Lynch, 26, an Iraq war veteran who attends the University of Delaware.

More than 2 million troops have served in the recent wars, and more than 6,000 have died fighting in them. Tens of thousands have come home wounded, and countless numbers have struggled with issues such as post-traumatic stress disorder and traumatic brain injury.

Joe Leal, 34, of Los Angeles, who founded a group that helps homeless veterans, was so happy he said he took the opportunity to finally open a bottle of tequila a fellow service member, Kelly Bolor, had given to him before he was killed in Iraq in 2003.

"I never found a true reason. I knew someday, somehow and that was it," said Leal, who uses a cane and has severe post-traumatic stress disorder stemming from a war wound.

Soldiers in Afghanistan said they felt a sense of pride.

1st Sgt. Troy Bayliss, 39, of the 1st Brigade Combat Team, 101st Airborne Division, found out the news of the insurgent leader's death while waiting for a flight home to Fort Campbell, Ky., after spending a year in eastern Afghanistan.

"It's really great news considering the damage he caused and what followed," Bayliss said Monday from Bagram Air Field in Afghanistan.

Spc. Joshua Coffman, 30, also from the 1st Brigade Combat Team and also finishing his second deployment to Afghanistan, said he hopes the news of bin Laden's death enhances support for the military's efforts and their sacrifices over the past nine-plus years.

"This kind of shows the American people that the soldiers here didn't die in vain," he said. "It may give some families some closure."

At Fort Stewart, Ga., soldiers gathered near the front gate, and bin Laden's death was on their mind.

"It's good that he's dead," said Pfc. Caleb Kinlaw, a 20-year-old Army infantryman. "If you went through all this time and he was still living and causing trouble, it would seem like a waste. Now with bin Laden being out of the way, you feel like you accomplished something."

While the U.S. is winding down its military presence in Iraq, it's still fighting the Taliban and al-Qaida in Afghanistan -- where bin Laden set up terrorist training camps in the late 1990s. More than 4,000 U.S. soldiers have been killed in the two wars.

For some military families, bin Laden's death triggered all the terrible emotions they felt when they lost their loved ones. They knew his actions created the timeline that put their kin in harm's way. After 9/11, people enlisted out of a sense of patriotism. They wanted to hold bin Laden, the architect of the attacks on the World Trade Center and Pentagon, accountable for the deaths of U.S. citizens.

When Robert Lootens heard the news, he turned to look at his son's picture on the living room wall and cried out, "They got him, Junior!"

Jonathan Lootens enlisted after the Sept. 11 attacks and served his first tour in Afghanistan, often volunteering for search missions along the Pakistan border. The 25-year-old Army sergeant was killed by a roadside bomb in Iraq in 2006.

His father and Vietnam veteran believes the end of the manhunt brings the world a step closer to peace "in one way or another."

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