What's her secret?: 'I pray for wisdom every day'

abredeson@islandpacket.comJuly 13, 2014 

Amy Plew, of Bluffton, and her husband, Jared, stand with their two children Micah, 4, and Jesse, 8, at the public dock on the end of Calhoun Street in Bluffton.

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Name: Amy Plew

Husband: Jared

Town: Bluffton

Children: Jesse, 8; Micah, 4

Occupation: Postpartum registered nurse at Coastal Carolina Hospital

Favorite mommy moment: I love watching my boys play together while wearing costumes. They have the craziest imaginations, and it makes my heart so happy to see how much fun they have together.

Most challenging moment: Every kid has their own challenges. With Jesse, he really struggled with school. With Micah, he has a ridiculously strong will. The toughest part of being a mommy, for me, is learning how to advocate for them, discipline them and love them at the same time.

Go-to lunch: I love a good turkey and cheese sub with tomatoes, mayo, oregano and a giant glass of iced tea with lots of lemon.

Product you can't live without: A first aid kit with lots of Band-Aids and Neosporin.

Favorite local event: I just adore the Bluffton Village Festival. I love seeing all of the local vendors and craftspeople gather together, and I think it's really unique to Bluffton.

The moment your kids met each other: After six years of dealing with infertility and being told by a fertility specialist that there was little chance of us carrying a baby to term, we decided to adopt. We had two private adoptions fall through rather early on in the process and then decided to become foster parents. Jesse came to us when he was 2 1/2 years old, and he wanted a baby brother. We told him that I couldn't have a baby, but he could pray for one. He got down on his knees and prayed, "Dear Jesus, baby. Amen." A few months later, I found out I was pregnant -- three months pregnant. Carrying Micah was very difficult, but we made it to the very end of 35 weeks before he graced us with his presence, and Jesse was just ecstatic to be a big brother. Jesse came to the hospital in his Spider-Man costume and snuggled his new baby brother, telling him all about his new Mommy, Daddy and home. It was the most precious gift. Not only did I get to be a mom to the sweetest little boys, they really loved each other. Four months after Micah was born, Jesse's adoption was finalized.

How do you stick to routines in your house? I think for the most part, I'm pretty strict. It's a daily struggle to find balance between letting the boys be kids and having some structure. Both boys know what behaviors are expected and acceptable, and good manners are very important to me.

I want to pull out my hair when: I've asked my boys a dozen times to clean up their Legos and they completely ignore me.

Stress reliever: I try to set some time aside for myself to read, garden, sew, needle, felt or embroider. I find that I'm a lot less of a crazy mom when I have some time by myself to do something I enjoy.

Advice for other moms: This one's a bit tough for me because I don't feel like I have my act together at all, but I think that the thing that's helped me the most as a mom is realizing I don't have all the answers. Jared and I both have to rely on our relationship with God to raise these boys we've been given. I pray for wisdom every day because on my own, I am a hot mess.

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