What's her secret?: 'Let them fail a little'

abredeson@islandpacket.comJune 15, 2014 

Stacey Macioszek of Bluffton, with her children from left Megan, 14; Zach, 8; and Gwen, 13.

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Name: Stacey Macioszek

Town: Bluffton

Children: Megan, 14; Gwen, 13; Zach, 8

Occupation: Chef at Bess' Delicatessen and Catering Specialists

Favorite mommy moment: There are so many favorite moments with all of them, but I would have to say the hugs and "I love you" when they are completely out of the blue.

Easy, healthy meal idea: Herb-crusted salmon with an arugula salad, lemon dressing and fresh grated romano cheese.

Most challenging moment: When my daughter Megan was 5, she refused to taste the stuffed green peppers I had made for dinner. I actually made her sit at the table and told her she was not allowed to leave the table until she tried them. Two hours later, both of us had tears in our eyes, and I finally allowed her to get up. She never tried them, and that was the last battle of wills I had with any of them.

Favorite movie: Anything with Adam Sandler. His movies seem to be the ones that will get all of us to sit and watch together.

Favorite quote: "If you're going to be stupid, you gotta be tough." We adopted this from my brother's family. It started when the girls were 5 and 6. They were jumping on the bed after being warned many times not to. Gwen ended up falling off and breaking her wrist. After we were home from the hospital, Megan said, "You know what Uncle Paul says ..."

Favorite age for your kids: Every age has had its new experiences, and (let you see) something for the first time through the eyes of the children. But I would have to say the range of age that is my favorite is from 8 to 10. That seems to be the age when they understand humor and their wit has developed.

What's the one thing that's OK to let go? Definitely housework. Emptying the dishwasher and vacuuming will be there tomorrow. The time will come very soon when the kids will not want to be around their mom as much. I will take all the time I can get with them for now.

What would you do if you were completely alone for an entire day? The beach all day and an evening out with my best girlfriends

What surprises you about being a mom? Everything and nothing.

Advice for other moms: This is the advice I received from my mother: "Don't be too controlling. Let them fail a little. That is how we learn to be responsible for ourselves." So far for me, it has worked pretty well.

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