What's her secret?: 'Love them, kiss them, hug them'

abredeson@islandpacket.comMarch 16, 2014 

The Scott family from left, back row, are James, David, Tobi, Caden, Tahya and Amy. From left, front row, are Kyla, Brighton, Ian and Shayna.

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Name: Tobi Scott

Husband: David

Town: Beaufort

Children: Amber, 26; James, 17; Tahya, 14; Kyla, 8; Shayna, 6; Ian, 4; Brighton, 3; and Caden, 1.

Occupation: Mother and homeschool teacher

Favorite mommy moment: I love going on individual dates with my kiddos. They have all my attention, and they share what's in their hearts.

Most challenging moment: Every day is challenging for me. Homeschooling the three girls with three boys under the age of 4 can get tricky. We also take care of my 39-year-old sister with Down syndrome. Our kids are involved in gymnastics, karate and horseback riding a few times a week. We are also at doctor appointments/therapy once or twice a week. As crazy as it seems, I wouldn't change anything.

Another challenge is all the illnesses and diagnoses we have gone through over the years. Our oldest has a blood disorder and was bleeding internally for two years. Our next child down has epilepsy. One of our daughters has reflux. Our 4-year-old has attention deficit disorder. Our 3-year-old has involuntary breath-holding spells, and our youngest has eczema. We have spent a lot of time in hospitals and doctors' offices. I just hate seeing my babies hurting. But I love that we can advocate for our children and bless others with the knowledge that we have.

Most embarrassing moment: One day while at a fast food restaurant, my 3-year-old son had an accident. He was supposed to be in a diaper but was in underwear. He was given some heavy-duty stomach medication the night before. It was so bad that they had to shut the playroom down.

Go-to dinner: Pizza. It's everyone's favorite.

Favorite book: "I Love You Forever" (by Robert Munsch and Sheila McGraw) is one of my favorites. A friend gave it to me 18 years ago for my first-born child. It shows a mother's unconditional love for her son in raising him and how in return he cared and loved for her when she got older. I love the song and still sing it to my little ones.

How do you keep your relationship a priority?: My husband and I put God first and then each other and then our children. My wonderful husband takes me on a date once a week. Those are my most cherished times.

What is something your child said that amazed or inspired you?: My kids are awesome. Even when I least deserve it, they tell me that I am the best mom ever. All my children say and do amazing things daily, but James, my 17-year-old, was a true inspiration. For two years, during his 10th- and 11th-grade years, he was very sick on and off. We were in and out of doctors' offices and hospitals and even traveled to Boston Children's Hospital several times. During it all, he never once complained. He was absent more than he was at school but still completed all his high school classes and four college classes with good grades. I am so proud of him.

How do you keep up with all the kids' stuff -- all the papers, projects, activities and appointments?: I take one day at a time and sometimes every hour. My Lord Jesus Christ is my rock. Through my good days and my really hard days, he is always there for me.

What are your "me" time moments?: If I was completely alone for an entire day, I would love to just lay in bed and read a book. But I wouldn't. I would try to conquer the mile-long list from unfinished projects to organizing to laundry.

Advice: Be hands-on with your children. Play with them, paint with them, play games and go outside, and push them on a swing. If they need to talk, stop what you're doing and listen. Love them, kiss them and hug them throughout the day. Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6).

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