Individuals can act to stop domestic violence

Thank you for your editorial examining the appalling incidence of domestic violence in our state. Even more alarming is the fact that domestic violence is under-reported, and the true numbers may be tenfold greater than documented.

As we read of the encouraging efforts of the attorney general, solicitors and legislators to address this epidemic, we overlook the reality that we as individuals can act as well. In fact, Citizens Opposed to Domestic Abuse began as a group of residents recognizing a problem and choosing to take action -- by sheltering victims in their own homes.

CODA has grown significantly in the 20-plus years since the first "citizens" acted. It has an emergency shelter for victims and their children, an attorney, a court advocate, adult and children's counselors and a case manager. Its services are free.

But victims of domestic violence are frightened, traumatized and confused. They may be unaware of CODA's services or hesitant to access them. They fail to realize the severity of the danger they are in. They believe they are responsible for the abuse. They are told they will be killed if they try to leave. They are embarrassed.

Domestic violence is not a private, embarrassing relationship problem. It is a crime. If we suspect someone we know is in an abusive relationship, we can reach out. We can tell them they are not alone, that the abuse is not their fault. We can alert them to organizations, such as CODA, where they can get help. Don't wish tomorrow that you had acted today.

Martha Lawrence

Community educator

CODA

Beaufort